they’re your handcuffs…

had a good friend of me ask me for advice on relationships and a recent break up they’d had.

first of all, he’s an idiot for coming to me knowing my history, but i’ll continue and you can all take it for face value. the way it was, my friend had been very unsure about what to do, where to go, and so on. it felt as though there was something holding him back.

and it occurred to me, that the only thing holding him back was some kind of invisible obligation for this and that to his ex. but the reason you break up (and it’s never pleasant) is to be free from exactly that… the fact of the matter is, a lot of people feel this way after they break up. they get so caught up in what just happened, they forget to try and appreciate what’s to come. then they end up sitting around swamped with all the negatives of having broken up, NONE of the positives, wondering why the hell they feel like trash.

then they naturally either begin second guessing a decision they laboured over, and in worse case scenarios going backwards to go forward. backwards is not the way forward people. don’t wonder about the handcuffs that you put on yourself.

anyway. what do i know?

r.